Sometimes we go through experiences that overwhelm us. We feel alone and helpless, or need someone to share the little things that bring us joy. Other times we rush into judging others without knowing them or having any idea about the things they’ve been through.

I started Connections in a time when my life didn’t look to colorful or happy and it served as a self therapeutic exercise. Then more people got hooked into it and I decided to take it further.

This project is an exercise of introspection and sincerity, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that put a mark on our lives. Connections talks about all of us – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

It’s a project that continues to do me good and I hope you’ll get something good out of it as well.

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Did you use to invent stories when you were a little boy? What were they about?

All my stories involved calamities. Before i went to bed i thought about all kinds of bad things, monsters and apocalypses. After i managed to relax i fell asleep. I also had a sleep paralysis period and felt them even more intensely. Sleep paralysis immobilizes you before you fall asleep and you can open your eyes without being able to move your body. Often shadows, floating sensations or waves circle you until you manage to “fall back to sleep” and be able to wake up and move your body. It’s a very interesting experience few people have and lots of them are terrified. It fascinated me.

What’s the most beautiful memory from your childhood?

Probably building 9A in which i grew up from 8 until over 20 years old. A lot of things happened here from games of electronic poker to picking mirabelle plums from the cemetery, from foot tennis to stealing mattresses. Seemed like Pantelimon [ district in Bucharest] was a little village.

Tell me about a person who changed/influenced your life

Definitely my girlfriend Andrea without whom I wouldn’t have moved to Berlin, gotten into freelancing or discovered many of my qualities.

What did you learn from your past relationships?

That you must experiment many things and that you must have someone to do that with. I’ve learnt you must have relationships in which communication is the most important. I haven’t had many relationships but i’m grateful for the ones i had because each of them thought me to get the perfect one.

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

In Berlin many people smile on the street. Recently an elderly lady smiled at us [he and his girlfriend] when she saw us jogging together.

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

Nothing comes to mind now but i’m sure something must have happened. I’m a shy person, i forget fast.

When in your life did you feel most alone?

At my grandparent’s. I was 12-13 and got there earlier than my cousin. I had to stay there alone for three days.

Well, with my grandparents but they weren’t so much fun. I cried a lot in the lucerne field, that’s how terrible I felt.

Constantin, 35 years

*Want to be part of this project? Send me your answers at ioanabirdu@gmail.com*

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