Connections Ioana Birdu interviews

© Ioana Bîrdu

Connections is an exercise of introspection and honesty, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that had a meaningful impact on our lives.

Connections talks about us all – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

Did you make up stories when you were a little boy? What were they about?

Yes, all the time. And each time they all started with two people who became friends.

I’ve always been interested in drawing and when I was a boy I decided to create and write a book, without knowing what that actually meant. So I began drawing characters and maps of cities and wrote stories about a fight between light and darkness. I don’t know how the battle ended 🙂

What's a beautiful memory from your childhood?

Those autumn Sunday mornings when I went outside, in the yard, right after breakfast. Everything was still green, covered in dewdrops and the air had that particular freshness. Add to this that serenity specific to autumnal beginnings.  

Tell me about a person who changed or had an impact on your life.

Once I met someone who surprised me with a truly balanced demeanour. I found it almost unreal, comparing it to my previous experiences. I believe it overlapped with my realization of how I always get into this unhealthy behavioral pattern, every time I fall in love with someone.

I think it’s fantastic how this coincidences appear. It’s like someone gives you the right answer when you ask the right question.  

What have you learnt from your past relationships?

I’ve learnt to communicate what I feel in a clear, simple and direct manner. I’ve learnt what acceptance means and what I’m looking for. That age and maturity are not a package deal. That it takes two people to build something and that a relationship is something really fragile.

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

Yes, a taxi driver wished me the most beautiful thing: “May you have a beautiful, sunny day and many smiles from lots of people!”, accompanied by an honest smile.

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

Yes, for a five year old girl. I gave her the most precious treasure I had: my figurine collection (around 200 pieces). Fortunately it’s in good hands now.

When in your life did you feel most alone?

In the evening, every now and then, when I hope to hear the SMS tone, before I fall asleep.

Alex, 29 years old