October 25, 2016Comments are off for this post.

George

Sometimes we go through experiences that overwhelm us. We feel alone and helpless, or need someone to share the little things that bring us joy. Other times we rush into judging others without knowing them or having any idea about the things they’ve been through.

I started Connections in a time when my life didn’t look to colorful or happy and it served as a self therapeutic exercise. Then more people got hooked into it and I decided to take it further.

This project is an exercise of introspection and sincerity, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that put a mark on our lives. Connections talks about all of us – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

It’s a project that continues to do me good and I hope you’ll get something good out of it as well.

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Did you use to invent stories when you were a little boy? What were they about?

Yes. Somehow I got the idea I was good at writing, although It wasn’t something i later developed because of my law carrier. Nonetheless, I do remember how i used to sit on a chair at my grandparents house and tried to write meaningful stories that i would later read to my grandma. I can’t remember what they were about but i know for sure my characters were people with no super powers. I think this is why I always loved Batman, he had cash, no super powers.

What’s the most beautiful memory from your childhood?

My childhood is filled with beautiful memories. I don’t believe in fate or luck, you know. I do believe that all the good things that happen to us are our own creations, results of our past actions. But not to completely disappoint the adepts of Good fortune, i believe humans can get lucky once in their lives and that is when they are born in a certain family or environment. That’s the only fact you have no influence upon and that is pure luck. Having said that, I consider myself one of the luckiest people alive. So my memory will have to be a family portrait, one Sunday evening, all gathered in our living room, three generations, probably with the TV on.

Tell me about a person who changed or influenced your life.

My grandma who stood by me until I was 20 years old. She was a teacher and before I got to first grade she used to teach me how to multiply on the beach. I was her last student, probably the one in which she invested the most. And i believe i made her happy. Even now, when i do something i think would make her proud i wink at the sky.

What did you learn from your past relationships?

To better know myself.

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

It was my first time at Garana Jazz Festival and I was there camping. And even though my father advised me to set up my tent like a church, up in the hill and not near the swelling river, where the animals might come to drink water, i set it up 2 meters away from the river. It rained for an entire hour, the river overflowed and took our tent with it, until some friends managed to save it. And there I was soaking wet, in my slippers with all my clothes wet, in the tent. There some people allowed me to stay in their van, gave me a shirt and a shot of pălincă [romanian brandy].

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

I rather keep this to myself.

When in your life did you feel most alone?

I haven’t had too many moments like this. No matter what they were, I’ve always had my safety places where I knew I could always come back to. Nevertheless, loneliness in small portions can be therapeutic. We tend to forget this, but the moments of solitude we have with ourselves are very healthy. I have this moments when i run. I’m all mine for an hour.

George, 28 years old

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October 21, 2016Comments are off for this post.

Silviana

Sometimes we go through experiences that overwhelm us. We feel alone and helpless, or need someone to share the little things that bring us joy. Other times we rush into judging others without knowing them or having any idea about the things they’ve been through.

I started Connections in a time when my life didn’t look to colorful or happy and it served as a self therapeutic exercise. Then more people got hooked into it and I decided to take it further.

This project is an exercise of introspection and sincerity, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that put a mark on our lives. Connections talks about all of us – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

It’s a project that continues to do me good and I hope you’ll get something good out of it as well.

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Did you use to invent stories when you were a little girl? What were they about?

Oh my, i invented entire universes. I daydreamed a lot and still do. I used every detail or experience: if i raced the kids near my home, i saw myself on a running track. If we were stealing cherries, there I was with my gang and Steven Segal. In Vietnam. In the puddles. Nothing was too small, nothing was unimportant.

What’s the most beautiful memory from your childhood?

I don’t know if this is the most beautiful but i always laugh out loud when i remember it. I can’t remember how old i was, but i know my mom had sent me to a summer camp. It was the first time i saw the sea and out of too much enthusiasm i went to the shore and hugged the first wave. It put me to the ground, i got a little dizzy but i was feeling fine.

Tell me about a person who changed or influenced your life.

The people you chose to listen to shape you. The people you chose to see show you who you want to become or the person you don’t want to be. I can’t just pick one. It’s all of them. The ones who knew to say the right thing at the right time, with honesty and great care, even though they knew that sometimes I wouldn’t like what i was hearing. I appreciate them greatly.

What did you learn from your past relationships?

To trust myself more, to be more selective. I’ve also learnt not to judge people based on the first impression, and to have the courage to be myself. To love full heartedly.

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

Yes, absolutely. They’ve offered me trust when i needed it and i hope i can do the same for someone else.

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

Some stories are meant to be kept not told. 🙂

When in your life did you feel most alone?

Hm. Loneliness is a temporary thing (sometimes, never a bad thing, it teaches you). If you look around you you’re never completely alone. You just have to let time to pass for a while and to want to see. But what do I know? There’s a long way till far away.

Silviana, 27 years old

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October 21, 2016Comments are off for this post.

Raisa

Sometimes we go through experiences that overwhelm us. We feel alone and helpless, or need someone to share the little things that bring us joy. Other times we rush into judging others without knowing them or having any idea about the things they’ve been through.

I started Connections in a time when my life didn’t look to colorful or happy and it served as a self therapeutic exercise. Then more people got hooked into it and I decided to take it further.

This project is an exercise of introspection and sincerity, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that put a mark on our lives. Connections talks about all of us – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

It’s a project that continues to do me good and I hope you’ll get something good out of it as well.

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Did you use to invent stories when you were a little girl? What were they about?

I recall many russian stories, but i’m not sure if they were my own inventions or if it’s because my sister used to read me a lot of them from that book everyone had as a kid.

What’s the most beautiful memory from your childhood?

I lived in a house that had an orchard, a flower garden and two big magnolias. On my way home, struggling with a very heavy backpack, i met my mother  back in the garden, weeding the flowers. She did that for hours, even days. And on the alley leading to our house i told her all about my life. I did it for hours, even days.

Tell me about a person who changed or influenced your life.

Adrian Jicu, my high-school romanian teacher. He recommended me The Illusions of Romanian Literature by Eugen Negrici. Then he kept recommending me critique and changed my way of thinking. He taught me to search for arguments and counter arguments, to debate and be curious. And this is the most important thing in life: to be curious.

What did you learn from your past relationships?

No matter how much you learn in a relationship it’s not enough for the next one.

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

A stranger once gave me a luggage full of Bucuria candies.

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

I write letters to a carrier from Ardeal.

When in your life did you feel most alone?

Three summers ago when I took a vacation to Malta alone. I left with 5 books and 500 songs on my ipod, but i haven’t read a word nor listen to a song.

They were 10 incredible days. 🙂

Raisa, 25 years old

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October 21, 2016Comments are off for this post.

Constantin

Sometimes we go through experiences that overwhelm us. We feel alone and helpless, or need someone to share the little things that bring us joy. Other times we rush into judging others without knowing them or having any idea about the things they’ve been through.

I started Connections in a time when my life didn’t look to colorful or happy and it served as a self therapeutic exercise. Then more people got hooked into it and I decided to take it further.

This project is an exercise of introspection and sincerity, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that put a mark on our lives. Connections talks about all of us – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

It’s a project that continues to do me good and I hope you’ll get something good out of it as well.

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Did you use to invent stories when you were a little boy? What were they about?

All my stories involved calamities. Before i went to bed i thought about all kinds of bad things, monsters and apocalypses. After i managed to relax i fell asleep. I also had a sleep paralysis period and felt them even more intensely. Sleep paralysis immobilizes you before you fall asleep and you can open your eyes without being able to move your body. Often shadows, floating sensations or waves circle you until you manage to “fall back to sleep” and be able to wake up and move your body. It’s a very interesting experience few people have and lots of them are terrified. It fascinated me.

What’s the most beautiful memory from your childhood?

Probably building 9A in which i grew up from 8 until over 20 years old. A lot of things happened here from games of electronic poker to picking mirabelle plums from the cemetery, from foot tennis to stealing mattresses. Seemed like Pantelimon [ district in Bucharest] was a little village.

Tell me about a person who changed/influenced your life

Definitely my girlfriend Andrea without whom I wouldn’t have moved to Berlin, gotten into freelancing or discovered many of my qualities.

What did you learn from your past relationships?

That you must experiment many things and that you must have someone to do that with. I’ve learnt you must have relationships in which communication is the most important. I haven’t had many relationships but i’m grateful for the ones i had because each of them thought me to get the perfect one.

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

In Berlin many people smile on the street. Recently an elderly lady smiled at us [he and his girlfriend] when she saw us jogging together.

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

Nothing comes to mind now but i’m sure something must have happened. I’m a shy person, i forget fast.

When in your life did you feel most alone?

At my grandparent’s. I was 12-13 and got there earlier than my cousin. I had to stay there alone for three days.

Well, with my grandparents but they weren’t so much fun. I cried a lot in the lucerne field, that’s how terrible I felt.

Constantin, 35 years

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October 21, 2016Comments are off for this post.

Diana

Sometimes we go through experiences that overwhelm us. We feel alone and helpless, or need someone to share the little things that bring us joy. Other times we rush into judging others without knowing them or having any idea about the things they’ve been through.

I started Connections in a time when my life didn’t look to colorful or happy and it served as a self therapeutic exercise. Then more people got hooked into it and I decided to take it further.

This project is an exercise of introspection and sincerity, a way of traveling back in time to reflect on some of the moments and relationships that put a mark on our lives. Connections talks about all of us – the experiences that bring us joy or sadness, the little things we might take for granted, the people we meet.

It’s a project that continues to do me good and I hope you’ll get something good out of it as well.

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Did you use to invent stories when you were a little girl? What were they about?

I often thought i’ve seen things no one else would notice, moreover since they all took place when no one i knew was there to see them with me For example, my parents still remember how certain i was about the day i went to buy some bread and i saw Kevin Costner waiting in the queue.

What’s the most beautiful memory from your childhood?

There are so many! My parents and my sister were my childhood superheroes, so I must pick one memory for each of them. I’ll have to mention then the walks my dad and my 8 year old self used to have in the dog park, the not so often but lovely moments when my sister, who was 5 years older than me, would cave in to my pleadings and play with me and my dolls, and the most delicious picnics my mother used to plan at the neighbourhood’s pool. And those are just a few.

Tell me about a person who changed or influenced your life

This will probably sound very “Sex and the City” like but i’ll have to mention my friends – the most beautiful, snappy in a smart way, independent and badass chicks i know. I’d be a smaller person, with fewer models and less happy memories if i wouldn’t have met them.

What did you learn from your past relationships?

As a highly sensitive and almost paranoid person, i developed some weird self defense mechanisms that made me look very ironic and cold to people who didn’t know me or who intimidated me. So i try to relearn that showing my vulnerability is actually an act of courage and it’s ok if my voice trembles or if i feel like crying. I’ve also learnt that smiling, getting excited and showing myself is good 🙂

Did a stranger do something nice for you?

It happened sometimes, yes. There were traffic controllers who didn’t give me a ticket when my head was too deep in the clouds and i  forgot to scan my ticket, random people who offered me flowers on the street and a lady in a bus who told me i was wearing a dress just as beautiful as she used to wear when she was younger :).

Did you do something nice for a stranger?

A couple of days ago i told a woman who was almost 70 years old that she was very beautiful and she had the gentlest eyes i’ve ever seen.

When in your life did you feel most alone?

This must be the classical moment when you feel close to the abyss. It sounds dramatic, but this was how i felt. Even more so when i was surrounded by people who encouraged me to talk and let everything out and i did talk about everything that happened to me. Nonetheless, that awful feeling stayed with me for a while.

Diana, 28 years old

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